Formula to ultimate Happiness 😊

Hi all,

I am Shubham, again with something to put the smile on your fearful and anxious faces.

Yeah, So today I am going to talk about how to achieve the goal of ultimate Happiness. 

To know more about it, we should first think about the murderers of the Happy feelings. 

When it come to the happiness, we often consider our happiness belongs to something or attached with something.

This is an initial signal to our mind, that works mostly like an inference engine of an AI (Inference engine has past experiences or pre-formatted data, on the basis of which it generates the conclusions.)

So, if we let our mind feel, "Hey mind, my happiness belongs to any person, any place or any other thing!", then this kind of statement is going to make a blind spot for mind, and only visibility will be for the occurrence of the belongings that you had already defined for your brain. 

Since, you put a cover on your mind to ignore everything till something special you had defined, occurs, you will always feel low and sad.

So, first murderer is DEFINITIVE APPROACH towards happiness. 

Let's move on second murderer, 

So, you might have observed, we are often scared about the beloved and belonged things or people, and often don't want them to be unhappy, or angry or in doubt, or may be to leave.

Also, there are many scenarios, which are associated with this murderer, which often comes with the negative traits and has the largest impact on a human's happiness. 

Thus the second murderer is FEAR.

Have you ever thought, what happens with the depressed people?

Depression often caused by the laziness, and laziness is the cause of lack of interest.

When we don't have interest in something we don't often do it, and if lack of interest comes in picture, then everything feels like non worthy and humans in such condition often tend to suicide.

So the third murderer is LACK OF INTEREST..

Now,

Let's come to happiness, 

As I stated earlier, till we don't find the murderers of happiness, we won't be able to talk about the formula for happiness.

The reason is simple, 

To be happy always, you should not let murderers of happiness be heavy on your thought process.

Now, let's see, how can we try to stop the murderers be effective.

1) DEFINITIVE APPROACH: To tackle the definitive approach, we will need to have many people at the same level of feeling, just like the way we love the people in our life, you shall be having multiple people in the same level group.

For example: You are having family of 3-4 people, then, you shall be having same love for them (Here I am not talking about the affection or feelings or your interaction), if we will be having same love, then seeing any single thing from that group, falling apart, leaving, then also you won't get affected more. Whereas, someone's death is a different part, and as no one will be in happy mood, it's relevant that you won't be too, but you get back from that sadness much faster with the help of family. 

For the second example: assume, a kid is having 10 toys, and his favorite toys are, truck, car and unicorn, then comes, small playable toys, If we takeout truck, he will play with car and unicorn, if we pick both, unicorn and truck, then he will play with car, but if we take out all big toys and give small toys, he may cry.

Being human, definitive approach was and will always be our priority, but not keeping it's quantity more, will hurt when there is no replacement for the same.

Here, it shall be understood, that while mentioning quantity more, I am not saying you shall have more partners, but you can have friends, your family with the same level of love, do care, do love them.

2) FEAR: Many of the times we have heard FOMO, what it is? Fear Of Missing Out.

But that is not the only fear, there are many fears.

Fear to death, fear to be hated, fear to get scold, fear to get failed, fear to get rejected, fear to loss, etc.

To tackle the fear, there is a need to address many things. Following are few things, which are needed to be practiced:

1) Transparency: Transparency is something very easy to achieve, if there are not other intentions involved as having multiple intentions will create conflict. The reason I placed transparency over trust is that, transparency can generate the trust.

2) Trust: Though there is transparency, it doesn't mean trust can be there always, trust can be generated with transparency but, only when transparency is not having conflict. So, to be more happy, we shall have trust on each other. To make above-mentioned things more clear, Trust and Transparency go hand in hand. If one is broken, second will start falling apart.

3) Approach: What shall be to do with approach, approach is how you handle the fear? Talking about me, I have many times faced Fomo, but it was never ever so heavy, because though it was only me facing in my surrounding, I was always knowing, it's not only me who is missing out but many are there, and missing out on bad things for happiness shall not be a fear as well, right? So apporach makes a big difference as well. 

One more fear, which we had always seen is fear of dark, that time, if we try to illuminate the room we can take care of it, or else just go to sleep, and keep your mind at rest. 

This way "approach" plays it's role...

That's all as of now,

I will keep on adding on it, just how the life progress 🙌 

Thanks!!!

-Shubh_A_M More